I'm seeing red.
Someone...a family member...by marriage...hit my children. (Breathe...breathe...release fists...breathe...)
They were rough housing, and the excuse given is that the kids "hit first".
Please keep in mind reader, my kids are barely 5 and 3 1/2. When you're rough housing with a child, expect to get hit, but don't hit back. And if you don't like it, WALK AWAY. Put the kids in TIME OUT. Don't rought house IN THE FIRST PLACE. They're kids for crying out loud. How could you hit a little 3 1/2 year old girl?
Whose the freaking grown-up in this scenario? Whose evolved?
What would you do? Would you confront this family member, with whom you already have a very poor relationship? And what about the other family members who are condoning this?
I'm the first to say that my kids can be crazy, insane, lunatic, partially-possessed little demons. And there have been times a little whack on the bottom seemed like the greatest thing in the world, but I would never, ever, in a million-trillion-billion-gazillion years hit my children in the face. Nor would I let someone else do it.
Help! Advice required!