Monday, June 07, 2010

I. Am. LIVID!

I'm seeing red.

Someone...a family member...by marriage...hit my children.  (Breathe...breathe...release fists...breathe...)

They were rough housing, and the excuse given is that the kids "hit first".

Please keep in mind reader, my kids are barely 5 and 3 1/2.  When you're rough housing with a child, expect to get hit, but don't hit back.  And if you don't like it, WALK AWAY.  Put the kids in TIME OUT.  Don't rought house IN THE FIRST PLACE.  They're kids for crying out loud.  How could you hit a little 3 1/2 year old girl?

Whose the freaking grown-up in this scenario?  Whose evolved?

What would you do?  Would you confront this family member, with whom you already have a very poor relationship?  And what about the other family members who are condoning this? 

I'm the first to say that my kids can be crazy, insane, lunatic, partially-possessed little demons.  And there have been times a little whack on the bottom seemed like the greatest thing in the world, but I would never, ever, in a million-trillion-billion-gazillion years hit my children in the face.  Nor would I let someone else do it.

Help!  Advice required!

Kelly Seething

7 comments:

Kimbie said...

Go Prego on that Mo Fo! Hi by the way! How are the Neffs? I see that you guys are having a little girl!!!!! YEA! Do you have a name picked out yet? Are you still on bed rest? We need to plan something if your are okay to not be in bed anymore!!!!!

Kimbie said...

I don't know if my comment posted for you to approve. so I apologize for the same comment...
Go Prego on the MoFo!!!!!!! Hi by the way! How are the Neff's? I see that you guys are having a girl! YEA!!!!!!!! Do you have a name picked out yet? Are you still on bed rest. Cause we need to plan something if your Doctor says its okay for you to not be on bed rest anymore!

Tara said...

Oh no!! I would be livid if I were in your place and my standing is kids come first. Don't worry about the already poor relationship you already have with this person. Tell him they will never watch your children nor be around them alone and what they did was not acceptable. Because you can't change what has already been done, but you can prevent it from ever happening again.

Also about the other family members who are condoning it, they may disagree with you but at the end of the day they are YOUR children and they need to respect your wishes and the way YOU want to displine them. They have no say.

You want me to go over there and slap them in the face? Just like what you said...they wouldn't like it. So why do it to a child?!

MaCa said...

Not okay. Simply tell this person you think they used poor judgement and you wanted to tell them that it isn't appropriate to physically discipline other people's childrens. Just make it seem like you are concerned that if they did this with another person's child (for instance mine) they might end up with a black eye.

The Hancuff's said...

i think your relationship with your children is way more important. it's important for your children to know you have their back, and a great place to start. let him know that that is not appropriate behavior and that this will not be happening in the future. not with your kids, not with any future kids, never. don't worry about any awkwardness, but these are your kids, and they need to know you will let someone else physically discipline. sorry this happened.

p.s. is your cell phone working?

nelsonturf said...

Cut them out of your life. I already warned a person in my OWN extended family that if they EVER,(and I mean it would take ONCE) yelled at my kids that would be the last time they saw them. Because of Moroni's anxiety, he can't tolerate it. I mean, yeah...I yell from time to time...but I'm his Mom and he knows that I adore him.
If they STRUCK!!! one of my children...first I would go ape on them, and THEN I would cut them out of my life. Lord help them if I actually witnessed the incident.

genderist said...

Oh wow... It would take all of my will not to ask them to come outside with me to talk, and then slap them.

Seriously, I would tell them in no uncertain terms that it's not acceptable to hit my daughter. I wouldn't listen to excuses or stories about how it used to be. I would tell them that if they could not abide by my rules they would no longer be welcome to be around my children without supervision. Period.

But that's just me. I'm all about flexing my Mommy muscles and pulling rank. I see my job as being her advocate and protector. It's my job to punish, if that's needed.

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